Another gimongous fight about the most inconsequential of things! Nevermind! Nevermind! Nevermind! This is what I keep telling myself. At some point though - nevermind becomes "I mind! Actually, I mind a LOT"... let me explain...

I think we're averaging 1 colossal-name-calling-curse-word-slinging fight every 2 months.  I don't know what the national statistics are but I can tell you for sure, these fights are NOT good. Anybody who knows me will tell you that I'm on a lifelong self-help program that consists of: a) reflecting on events to improve myself and; b) figuring out the reason for my existence.

During my last vacation, I discovered that I can be quite judgmental, impatient and stubborn. These are qualities that I now consider curable maladies - a mission possible for 2009. 

So I've been patient, I've been kind, I've been encouraging. I've apologized when I've been wrong. Pick your battles - let things go - all cliches that I'm really paying attention to. It's difficult though - and seemingly worthless to try and better myself then, when in the heat of an argument, I'm reduced to the same yelling-cursing-unable-to-put-any-coherent-thoughts-together mess. Arguments that go in circles - one over-communicating, the other one under-communicating. 

In other arguments, I was able to learn something about myself. Not today and not with this argument - but I'm hopeful that in the aftermath, there will be a silver lining among all the clouds.